Making memories is so important. Traditions are the legacy we leave behind. I know it’s something we all do, but I also believe we need to overcome old memories that perhaps hold us back from further happiness.
The most wonderful thing in life is that it changes. You have the power to change how you accept your past, how you are in the present and what you want for the future. Every day that we are here, we get the chance to make things better for ourselves.
During the holidays a lot of people struggle. I don’t have the best memories of Christmas from when I was young. There were good times and hard times. Growing up with a bipolar mom, you can understand things were never balanced.
There are some things I really miss. My mom could make a mean meat pie and I never learned how. In the spirit of new memories, I am challenging myself to make meat pies with my kids this year and I may even try my hand at making my moms shortbread cookies.
I’ve started my own traditions with my husband and children. New ways to celebrate our love for one another and the magic of the season. One of the things I’ve loved to do is what I call an Old Fashioned Homemade Christmas. The rules are that you could not buy a gift, you had to make it.
I’ve received some beautiful and thoughtful gifts. Baked goods, a knitted scarf and mittens , hand painted ornaments for the tree, homemade ones from the kids, meat pies from my sister in law, they were so good! Each gift was made by hand, with time and love.
I also started it because there were a few years where it was really hard to make ends meet, not only for us but for my siblings & friends as well. It was a new tradition we all appreciated.
No matter where you come from, no matter what your past is, you have the choice to make new memories for yourself and your family. I have made the choice to live in the moment, to remember the good times, and to replace every not so great memory with a new one.
I don’t want my children to just remember the presents, so each year I try to build memories that are fun, where we really all just enjoy ourselves. Enjoy the laughter and the love we all share for one another.
It’s not about what’s under the tree. It’s about who you’re surrounded by that matters. The more we focus and accept the good, the more we enhance our present lives, the more we build a rich, loving future for our kids to remember us by.